AccessEAP CEO Feature - Make sure you leave something in the tank

Newport & Wildman is proudly part of AccessEAP. This month we have a message from Sally Kirkright, CEO, AccessEAP.

I am starting to hear the words “exhaustion” and “burn out” frequently and earlier than usual this year. Indeed, fatigue is building as we try to find the best path through the current crisis, having navigated through the bushfires and floods from earlier in the year. The cumulative impact of the crises of 2020, taking a toll on us all. At Newport & Wildman our weekly communication channel distributes resources to make navigating this year and the current crisis a bit easier; however, you could be forgiven for thinking “how can I keep this up?”. 

There is something continually buzzing in the background zapping my energy. I am exhausted.  Yes, that’s right it’s a global pandemic – relentless. The situation changes daily and with it my routine, how I can go about my life depends on the latest hotspot. There are so many reasons that our worry and anxiety radars are constantly bleeping. It could be managing childcare or home schooling, having your partner out of work, concern for elderly or at risk family and friends, concern for young at risk family and friends as the economic and social impacts become evident, concern for employees and colleagues as we try to do the right thing when faced with the next new obstacle. Keeping up exercise, health and social (but distanced) connection. Worrying are we taking it too far when I see how much my Mum needs a hug, fearing we are not careful enough when we invite a few friends over for dinner.

Baking and online workouts, Zoom “drinks” or Houseparty apps, scrapbooking, jigsaws, cleaning out cupboards and home maintenance – the things that kept us going through the first lockdowns just don’t cut it anymore – who has the energy? Does it feel like you are in your very own bubble? It becomes all about you not others. Why aren’t people calling me? Well, they are probably exhausted too! It’s not what we want to hear but after months of restrictions we need to dig deeper and work harder at staying connected.

It’s time for some new ideas to breathe life into our tired minds and bodies. Here are some things that are helping me:

Create some space for thinking. At home or in the workplace the same approach can apply. Take time to jot down ideas, sit in the sun with your journal (pad of paper!) or hold virtual afternoon teas and lunches to brainstorm coping ideas and strategies. After building strong connections in the first lockdown, we may have lost some of the impetus, but we all need each other at least as much as ever. We must keep mixing it up and yes, that takes energy.

Speaking of energy, we need to leave something in the emotional fuel tank. In my earlier years I was a car rally navigator and great rally drivers know that going full throttle leaves you vulnerable. You always drive at less than 100% to leave something in the tank for the unexpected. This gives you the reserves that may be needed to cope with obstacles and finish the race. Likewise, we need to keep some emotional capacity in reserve to deal with and cope with the unexpected emotional support we may need to provide to a family member or friend; or even for ourselves when we are feeling overwhelmed and exhausted.

Nurture your “Circle of Support” (if you don’t have one – get one). These are the people both personal and professional who you can check in with and rely upon to reach out to you. Remember to share the load and this is where a professional counsellor or coach can help too. It is okay to say your not okay. By showing your authentic self you will develop deeper and rewarding relationships.

I can’t take credit for this tip, but nature can have a way of helping out and as we have passed the Winter Solstice, the amount of daylight is increasing each day. The impact of Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) is well-documented in terms of affecting mood. More light for the early morning or evening walk?

Finally, to revisit something I talked about a few months back “Pause, Listen, Anticipate and Act”. When you take the time to think and listen to yourself as well as those around you the benefit of perspective comes into play. In many situations, you have more time than you think and using that time may mean your actions ultimately will be more effective.

I appreciate and value your feedback and shared experiences. If the Newport & Wildman team or myself can assist you and your team, please contact us at any time on 1800 650 204. We are here for you and your people.

Sally Kirkright, AccessEAP CEO